When a couple ties the knot, they are figuratively bound by a single thread, and a commitment to share a life together as man and wife. While mutuality is deemed to be one of the biggest factors that make a marriage successful, should the couple sacrifice their individuality to achieve a strong sense of togetherness?
As with everything else in life, striking a balance is key in maintaining a marriage where couples enjoy optimal levels of closeness without losing the unique qualities and principles that have molded them into who they are. However, finding the middle ground in a relationship can be difficult for a couple, especially if they’re used to being autonomous or exercising authority.
Struggling to reconcile the reality of having individual needs and preferences while having to operate as a team? Here are some tips to make your marriage work despite the differences.
1. Make Yourself Clear.
Communicate with your spouse about both your needs and the desires of your heart. During this discussion, make it a point to find out how you can come to an agreement especially about decisions that will affect you both. Whether picking home decors or making mutual investments, these matters must come from a consensus. If something does not sit right by you, express your opinions, provide alternatives, and open your mind to honest feedback from your spouse.
2. Celebrate Each Other’s Uniqueness.
Differences shouldn’t have to spark debates. A couple should allow each other to grow even through means that they are not necessarily accustomed to, personally. Say, your spouse has a love for exploring the great outdoors, and you’d rather spend time tending to your plants at home. Give each other permission to live your passions, taking comfort in the fact that once you satisfy a thirst for adventure or relaxation, you can come together and share experiences that should make for a meaningful conversation and great bonding time as the day comes to a close.
3. Learn Actively.
While experience is the best teacher, don’t rely only on circumstances that you don’t have control of, most of the time. Be proactive in looking for tools that can help you thrive as a team. Attend seminars and read books that can impart practical strategies and proven solutions revolving around marriage success that can enhance your intimacy, develop healthier communication, and hone conflict management skills that can do wonders for your blessed union.